“Let’s go for walk.”
“No,” she responds.
He looks oddly nervous. “Come on! It will be nice.”
But she stands her ground. “It looks like rain.”
“It won’t rain. I promise.” But yep, he thinks to himself, it does look a little like rain.
“I don’t want to go for a walk.”
A trickle of sweat runs down his back. “Please. I really, really want to go for a walk.”
She looks at him. Why is he acting so strangely? But now its a contest of wills. “I told you, I don’t want to go for a walk. You go for a walk.”
“No,” he say a little too emphatically and then tries more smoothly, “I really want to go for a walk with you. Now.” His eyes loose focus for a moment as his mind drifts to the very expensive ring he has buried in the sand.
One of my favorite parts of wedding preparations is getting to know the couple as a couple. As part of that I ask how the engagement took place. (This is oddly telling and the stories are great no matter how elaborate or simple the story.) But after about 18 years of hearing these stories, I have a couple bits of advice for a couple that is hoping to be engaged:
Guys: 30% of the time the lady in these stories almost ruin everything because they don’t want to do the activity that you have picked out. So many times I have heard, “And it almost didn’t work out because she started resisting this very carefully thought out scenario I had planned out.” They laugh about it in my office but at the time they guy is one heart heart palpitation away from needing medical assistance.
Ladies: If you think a proposal is in the near offing and your man starts acting strangely, consider going with it. Here are some telltale signs: Becoming unusually chatty. Unusually concerned about time (which in his mind is timing.) He keeps feeling for something in his pocket to make sure its there. He is oddly insistent on doing something semi-romantic that you don’t want to do. He might be overdressed. He recently had time alone with your parents. He seems distracted and slightly sweaty. He may all of a sudden pull something like, “Let’s just go to the (pick unusual or meaningful place) before we go to the . . .” or “Let’s just stop at this spot for a moment,” while just a moment ago he was all concerned about arriving on time.
There are three possibilities going here. You are about to be proposed to, he is just a hopeless romantic in general (a good thing to know,) or he wants to steal you purse. Please be discerning.