At Theology on Tap last night the question was asked if we should refer to someone by their preferred pronoun even if it doesn’t match their body’s birth sex. Another person made the comment that it sounded like the predicament that Jordan Peterson found himself in.
It isn’t actually. The Jordan Peterson debate had to do with state mandated compelled speech in Canada (a truly scary thing - George Orwellian) and persons with gender issues unfortunately got caught in the middle. Therefor his case does not answer the above question at all.
To get to the root of the answer one must ask the question, “What is your purpose and aim?” For most of us, particularly outside of academia and politics, a Catholic is called to be an intentional disciple. That being the case, it is our aim to bring people to Christ in the fullness of truth in the Catholic Church. Can we woo anyone to the Church by refusing to call them by the identity markers that they pick out for themselves? Instead being able to explore grander topics, (eventually getting back to gender issues) it would always be about the mean Catholic that refused to call me “she.” The conversation will be dead in the water.
As one of my spiritual director’s said, “If a person knows that you love them, you can tell them anything.” Starting with “don’t” and “no” no matter how correct ends the game before it even begins. This does NOT mean compromising the faith. It does mean presenting it over a long enough period of time in which it can be heard.