Some priests talk about anonymous letters they receive. Of course, being anonymous, they
are never, “I just wanted to write you and tell you how wonderful you and the
parish are.” They are usually burning with anger and dripping with
maliciousness. I don’t why, but I don’t get those. (And wouldn’t pay them any
mind if I did.) The worst part about them is that there is nothing to be done
with them. One can’t respond because there is no one to respond to. So there
can be no clearing up of misunderstandings (on either’s part) or an
explanation. (And whoever got the idea that anybody could be won over to
something by being rude to them is beyond me.)
Now, that
is not to say that I don’t get messages of one sort of another from people who
disagree or disapprove of something I said or did. I do. But fortunately they
are signed and therefore we can do something about it. Talk –come to some sort
of understanding even if it is an understanding of disagreeing. (The blog is
different because we can still send messages back and forth.)
A
difference between the two notes (anonymous and signed) also tends to be the
tone. The anonymous ones tend to be very
disrespectful and the other type, while they may still be strong, is usually a
more logically thought out argument than some emotional diatribe. This anonymity
may be why there are so many people confessing road rage. The anonymity
associated with road rage allows our worse self to come out. Since (chances
are) no one will know who it is that is cutting them off, tailgating, slamming
on the breaks, honking the horn, flipping them off, or yelling at them, our
worst self, the stuff deep down that we would never share if it were associated
with us, can come out. (Great karma when it turns out that you and the person
you attacked pull into the same parking lot.)
This is
also the danger of the internet. The ability to leave anonymous messages (and
as we have discovered lately, news articles that turn out to be false after
doing much damage) allows the worse part of our culture to surface. No longer
do you have to stand behind your word with your signature and address or stand
out on the street and have your face associated with a protest sign. Nasty and
numerous missives can be left with and about anybody.
It is the
duty of all who are interested in the elevation of our culture but particularly
the Christian/Catholic to fight against this temptation and tendency. It is
another form of calumny, detraction, and gossip of the worst sort and we can’t
be a part of that.
Some have
said that they fear reprisals for something they want to say if they put their
name to it. If that is the case, if the
risk is not worth the price of the argument, then it shouldn’t be brought up at
all. We are to be a people of our words.
2 comments:
Beautiful post as usual, Father.
You are doing great! Wish I was a parishioner at St. Sebastian's!
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