tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5745814378416915364.post481322133535634210..comments2023-12-23T00:19:35.005-08:00Comments on ADAM'S ALE: THE GREAT DIVIDE OVER THE UNITY CANDLEFr. Vhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13201561855047420853noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5745814378416915364.post-4274059484389635532007-10-10T17:25:00.000-07:002007-10-10T17:25:00.000-07:00I end up rolling my eyes and gagging when that uni...I end up rolling my eyes and gagging when that unity candle comes out. Mercifully, I've never seen it at a Catholic wedding.<BR/><BR/>No one I know that had one at their wedding held onto it.Cathy_of_Alexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16795566831031491371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5745814378416915364.post-26609940204737773232007-10-09T08:37:00.000-07:002007-10-09T08:37:00.000-07:00Seems a lot of us have seen or coming onto 25 year...Seems a lot of us have seen or coming onto 25 years marriage. Great. We had the unity candle in '83 as well. I thought it was something that was "supposed" to be done. <BR/><BR/>Regarding the orans position at the "Our Father"...I'm so glad that isn't written down somewhere that it's mandatory. My husband seems to be a fan of doing this, but I have never felt comfortable doing so.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5745814378416915364.post-53702541338426731822007-10-09T05:15:00.000-07:002007-10-09T05:15:00.000-07:00Rob - I grew up in a parish that did Vatican II bu...Rob - <BR/><BR/>I grew up in a parish that did Vatican II but was very loyal to its roots and tradition of the Church (I didn't know Latin was controversial and unused until I left there and went to the seminary!)and I had the same thought as you - what is all the fuss? What did my grandparents do that is no so terrible? Now I just realize it was poor theology/liturgy against which I was reacting.<BR/><BR/>DAG - Nobody has to do the orans position. NOBODY. Well, accept the priest. I would find it annoying but far less so than holding hands. There is nothing written either way about it - not that it should be done or that it shouldn't - so what is he to say? I'd just stop.<BR/><BR/>Ellen - I hope you didn't think I thought they were evil - they just do not belong inside the mass.<BR/><BR/>MJ - 25 years! Light that baby up!Fr. Vhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13201561855047420853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5745814378416915364.post-6869140882418617172007-10-09T02:54:00.000-07:002007-10-09T02:54:00.000-07:00After reading this post and Fr V's comment about i...After reading this post and Fr V's comment about it would be interesting to know if the wedding candles were brought out on anniversaries, I thought hmm.. I think I remember having one of those. Sure enough, it's sitting in the wall unit in my living room. Looks like it hasn't been lit since the second or third anniversary (we just celebrated our 25th). I do like candles and have several around that I like to light but obviously had forgotten about that one!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5745814378416915364.post-10896516206175011032007-10-08T19:33:00.000-07:002007-10-08T19:33:00.000-07:00It woould be nice if we could stop making stuff up...It woould be nice if we could stop making stuff up (holding hands, unity candles) and being pressured to make things up (vows, wedding arrangements) and just do things like our ancestors did. <BR/><BR/>I became much more conservative and traditional when I began to wonder why I had to do everything different than my grandfather did.Odysseushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00028190531437571201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5745814378416915364.post-11486730664620854832007-10-08T18:41:00.000-07:002007-10-08T18:41:00.000-07:00My wife and I were worried what our young Clevelan...My wife and I were worried what our young Cleveland priest would say when we told him we did not want anything to do with the "Unity Candle." We were pleased when he responded "Thank God." <BR/><BR/>On another subject, when will Bishop Lennon do something about the bizzarre orans position that the congregation is using during the Our Father? My family can't always make it to the Latin Mass.Brother Declanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08878627318520462988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5745814378416915364.post-60937834668682114152007-10-08T17:00:00.000-07:002007-10-08T17:00:00.000-07:00This was an interesting post to me. I do see your ...This was an interesting post to me. I do see your point about the theological symbolism being skewed. We did have a unity candle at our wedding with the words "Two Become One" on it (we also had Epeshians 5 as one of our readings). The candle is on display in our house next to 2 wedding crosses we received that day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5745814378416915364.post-35743999377285913062007-10-08T11:59:00.000-07:002007-10-08T11:59:00.000-07:00I'd hope they come out occasionally.It was not a c...I'd hope they come out occasionally.<BR/><BR/>It was not a custom back in the days when we tied the knot.<BR/><BR/>Although a similar but different thing I see these days is the parents, or mothers, of the two families doing a candle thing to signify the union of the two families. kinda hokey, if you ask me, but then I'm just an O/F.uncle jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01879341171634900790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5745814378416915364.post-163203666622151272007-10-08T11:37:00.000-07:002007-10-08T11:37:00.000-07:00It would be interesting to know if all those candl...It would be interesting to know if all those candles are brought out of the closet and out of box on the wedding anniversaries like that - or do they become forgotten and thrown away . . .Fr. Vhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13201561855047420853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5745814378416915364.post-91044775470443543042007-10-08T09:37:00.000-07:002007-10-08T09:37:00.000-07:00Good heavens, you're right. I never saw it that w...Good heavens, you're right. I never saw it that way. To tell you the truth, back in '83 I'd felt there was too much a burden on <I>us</I>, the couple, to privatize the nuptial Mass. I had to really struggle to select songs, to personalize vows, as did my fiancee. It really wasn't us, all that.. we just wanted to be married for life in the eyes of the Church as well as those of others, for it was already settled within ourselves. <BR/><BR/>We did indeed purchase a candle (which would be the equivalent of $75 today, I think), but I can't recall if it was used during Mass or not! Every year, tho', we relight it on our anniversary, and keep it going for the eve, as a reminder-sign to ourselves and to our kids, that it's truly a special day. We are always reminded of that incredible day by this tall candle that will outlast our every anniversary there could ever be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5745814378416915364.post-5521287934498819222007-10-08T05:43:00.000-07:002007-10-08T05:43:00.000-07:00AMEN!and HALLELUJAH!and AMEN!AMEN!<BR/><BR/>and HALLELUJAH!<BR/><BR/>and AMEN!uncle jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01879341171634900790noreply@blogger.com